Highly acclaimed singer Mariah Carey once sang about being a hero. As per subjective understanding, I understood the necessity to believe in yourself thus becoming your own hero. Indeed, you are your own hero. Above all, you are capable of listening, comprehending and acting on all that puts a frown on your face. You may not be aware of it but you, and no one else, could help you alleviate yourself from the pain and suffering.


Thunder only happens when it’s raining; there is no smoke when there is no fire. Simply put, in every action there is indeed an equal or opposite reaction. Thus, the moment we let ourselves carelessly fly with the wind is congruent with our ability to think of ways to glide with ease thus lessening the turbulence that comes with it. Now, you might ask what is the relation to being your own hero? Well, to begin with, there is thunder because you caused the rain. More so, you have ignited the fire thus there is smoke. Simply put, you are your own worst animator, creator, contractor or whatever label you might want to add. You are the cause of everything.

To seek refuge in another is how we normally do things. However, that should not always be the case. Look no further, the search is over before it even began. The answer to our many impending questions lies on our own self. Yes, we are our own hero; our own answer to the problem. Though not fashionably graspable, we are our own hero. We hold the key to our happiness and not just any kind of happiness but genuine happiness.

With such, it is easy to rely entirely on the self alone and let go of anything external. Temporary happiness or bliss could be eliminated thus focusing on the ability to be truly happy. A happy ever after indeed.

Like Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP for brevity), it seeks to empower the self innately thus eradicating anything less than what the self deserves. Simply put, it nourishes the self accordingly thus permitting the life that one has always craved for. Yes, we are always on a constant craving; a life that is perfect, one like theirs. With NLP, although shaping the life in accordance to how successful people live theirs is possible and feasible at the same time, it enriches the individual to be his own entity. Aside from him being his own hero, he would be taught to accept his flaws and make better of what he has. In short, to develop the self entirely implies that he exhaust his entire self to his maximum potential. To be able to do such allows the self to see through the obvious and learn to expect the unexpected.

        Putting aside jealousy and embarking on a life long journey to greatness spells nothing but perfection to him.
                              Grope if you must, stand up and have a life according to your preference.

They say fall twice and get up thrice. Stop sulking and move on. To say such involves more than will power as it invokes the ability to control the self innately. Indeed, to be empowered from within enables the self to be at tune with the world and everything in it.

Life is in itself a roller coaster; one big looped roller coaster ride. The involvement of emotions and interplay of intellect with external factors enables the self to experience a different sense of ecstasy. To say the least, the self becomes reactive and responsive because of the power of the ride.

It is but human to experience highs and lows in life however it is also expected of us to get up and face the music. Letting go may be one tough task to accomplish but it is warranted of us to resort to such before it is too late. That whenever we fall down, we must get up and live. Indeed, we have to live, fight and act according to our life and how we want it to turn out. Besides, we possess the only power to steer the wheel in the right direction – no one else can.

With the help of Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP for brevity, one becomes ready for every turn, swerve and loop the roller coaster has to offer. One becomes accustomed but not immune to the various emotional disturbances thus allowing him to go have a steady ride. I would not dare say easy for life, like roller coasters, are not easy to handle rides.

The way NLP works cores upon the holistic set-up of the self. In other words, it seeks to empower the self in a manner that would allow it to deal with both the internal and external world. To say innate deals primarily with the self per se while the latter emphasizes on the outside world and dealings with others. NLP helps one be at par with how he wants his life to be and how he would like to deal with others meddling in his life. Indeed, life is all about taking and making chances with the circumstances that he or she is faced with – and this further includes dealings with others.

The way I see it, one’s ability to meddle in with the affairs of others enables him to experience pain and frustration at the same time. To say pain exemplifies the idea of falling down and learning how to get up. As aforementioned, instead of keeping in a fallen state, learn to get up –fight if you must.

Do not let negativity over power you, let positivity be your triton and light the path towards your goals and objectives. In that way, you are able to enjoy every turn, swerve and loop the roller coaster has to offer.

Ever been offered something you cannot decline? May it be material or immaterial, the main contention resides on the idea that you are not able to say “no” and regretted the moment you had to say “yes”. You make yourself believe that everything is okay despite the pain and remorse that is building up. In other words, you try to smile your way out of the situation.

Humans as we are, we normally handle situations without thinking of the possible consequences in the end. For us, the past cannot compensate the present or the future with the present. What we seek for is the ability of the self to deal with prevailing events and acts that we believe to contribute and affect our well-being. In other words, we focus our attention to those that we believe to satisfy us innately and allow us to attain our goals and objectives in life.

To belittle the ability of the self to choose and decide warrants an understanding that the self is not fully satisfied. To say the least, the self is not innately empowered. It is not as sturdy and as strong as we would want it to be. No, such notion does not connote incompleteness but rather when you say “not innately empowered” speaks of the lack of the fulfillment in the innate self and psyche that allows the self to develop and nourish the way that he has envisioned his life and self to be. In short, an innately empowered self is one that is balanced and cultivated in relation to having a life that he has always wanted.

To be able to steer the wheel and navigate the ship in the right direction is what Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP for brevity) does best. It imparts knowledge in the self that allows it to be at par with his vision in life. To emphasize on vision entails the understanding that the self is able to live out his dreams, aspirations and ideals. He is able to see the reality beyond and over his imagination. In short, NLP allows the self to forget about the past, enrich the present and foresee the future accordingly.

What NLP does is that it ensures the self of a life that is entirely different from the rest. Although through NLP the life of another, one that speaks of positivity, could be used as a pattern to redirect his life, still it must be understood that the self must be lived not in relation to how others live theirs but of how you wish to live and make the most out of your life. The decision to the kind of life you will have still resides in you; you are your own discretion.

  Therefore, the next time you are caught in between, be sure to fight the urge to give up and wave your white flag. 
                             Fight until you realize your mistakes and learn – that is how life should be!

I am an energizer bunny. Indeed, I am. I make the necessary adjustments as to the furtherance of my being. My day depends on my ability to decipher the world and its many codes. In other words, I am the sole bearer of my life torch.

In today’s busy world, my day depends on the things that are surrounding me. May it be material, situations or events, I depend on the impact such creates for my life.

I admit, I am one who gets easily affected by the things that are happening around me. I could get easily addicted to over-thinking and tiring myself of the confusion that it may bring; the intensity of which is tantamount to my ability to adopt and respond to the situation on hand. That, whichever direction I may choose is of my own discretion and nobody else’s.

It has been said that stress or a state of mental or emotional strain or suspense brought about by the external world has its positive effects. To state, stress enables the brain to cognitively process the situation down to its core. In short, it paves the way for the individual to enable the growth of the intellect through logic, rationality and ability of the individual to be reasonable. To be able to do such permits the development and nourishment of the self without having to depend on others and external world for answers; that the self is innately capable of figuring a way out.

The likes of Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP encapsulates the idea that the self is able to prevent, cure and eliminate the buildup of stress in the self. It further emphasizes on the ability of the self to rediscover his weaknesses and limitations and at the same time, convert them into his strengths. Yes, that is how NLP works. It seeks to help the individual to develop both his intellectual and emotional states and nourish his innate capacity to be immersed with others and that of the world in general.

The core idea behind NLP is to aid man into the way he establishes and create rapport with others. In the process, such notion also empowers him from within. To say the least, NLP is more than just a self-improvement method but more so as a process of discovering and rediscovering your own innate greatness to be able to live accordingly. In short, be the very person you have envisioned yourself to be in order to satisfy your life goals and objectives.

Therefore, the next time you are hit with the “stress bug”, smile. Indeed, smile your stress way and keep a happy disposition!

Never did I imagine that I would end up not with you. I admit; I was already looking forward to a life of bliss and challenges with you; I had conditioned myself that, whatever happens, we would be together. We would overcome everything and live the life we have always hoped for. However, apparently things do not always fall into place – circumstances tend to hinder our quest for a life that we have always wanted.

Indeed, life is a big pool of surprises. It has so many things in store that even a lifetime is not enough to enjoy each and every piece of it. In other words, it is indeed more than the façade and deeper than the deepest part of the ocean. It is unending and at the same time uncertain. It knows of no boundaries, thus enables man to seek for the light at the end of the tunnel. Simply put, life is a masquerade that is never ready to be unveiled.

Humans as we are, we have the tendency to dwell on a particular circumstance and forego the development of the self. More often than not, we become stuck in a situation without knowledge of how to escape from such. We only have hunches and gut feel, but still no certainty. However, that is what makes life exciting – not knowing what would happen next encourages the development of our cognitive and emotional capacity to life live in the moment.


Sometimes, it is best not to think in order to let go of our inhibitions. We have to learn how to overcome overthinking in order to pursue our quest for a life like no other. Though unexpected situations and events are always present in our daily life struggles, we must learn how to let go and expect the unexpected. Through this way, we will be able to see life in its entirety and enjoy every bit of it – with or without challenges.

More so, we will be able to enhance our innate curiosity, thus enable our selves to seek further than our comfort zones. We will be able to imbibe change and at the same time accept its possible consequences that would, in one way or another, contribute to our wellbeing.

Like NLP, it seeks to further improve the self into extending beyond its limits. In other words, it enables the self to grow and develop to be more than what any individual has imagined. The likes of NLP, being a self-improvement mechanism that rallies behind the self towards the path that one wants to be in, is indeed a big help.

To begin with, NLP enables the self to explore and be a risk-taker more than ever. It further allows the self to pursue what it wants and extend its scope even further. Through NLP, the self is able to see beyond the horizon and imagine what it might be like to live the life he has always wanted.

Thus, NLP is not only a self-improvement tool or process, but also and more so, an aid in the quest to live life accordingly.

Emotional distraught is one of the most common disturbances in our lives. We get physically drained, emotionally battered and intellectually paranoid as we try to escape the clutches of emotional distraught. We allow pain to seep in and destroy our life. However, it is through such an emotional journey that we learn to accept and take hold of control.

The likes of emotional binging and “me time” hoarding are examples of an escape goat. We tend to dissuade from reality and settle for temporary happiness. We opt to be momentarily blinded by ecstasy rather than take time to achieve permanent happiness. Yes, there are two (2) kinds of happiness, and more often than not, we settle for the former because we are too tired to explore the depths of our innate self and psyche. In other words, we like to take the short cut as compared to the long and winding road.

With the help of NLP, we are able to face our fears of the unknown. We are now able to go beyond our comfort zones and exude confidence as we face life as it is. In other words, we are ready, willing, and able to fight the battle at whatever costs.

NLP prepares us to be innately strong. It aids us to fight our own inhibitions and take lead of our curiosity. More so, it seeks to empower us in accordance with the understanding that would aid the self to develop even further. Indeed, NLP tackles the holistic self over and above other mechanisms of self-improvement.

Although it is not “bad” to resort to what we are used to in order to ease the pain or get right back on track, still one must be aware of the possible consequences that would await in the long run. Emotional binging could resort to ailing and failing health conditions; impulsive buying could result to a financial breakdown, while depression could take away your sanity.

It is then important to allow a certain degree of “breathing area” in our lives to enable the growth of the self. Let us not overly crave for temporary happiness, although inevitably impossible, let us be observant of how we live our lives the way we want it to be and be who we yearn for.

                      The quicker we realize the importance of hard work, patience, and control in our lives, the better.

                      Thus, do not drench yourself in temporary happiness. Instead, nourish and enrich your innate self
                                                                  and truly feel happiness from within. 

Making a difference in life could be understood as having and being your own personal hero. A hero that could help you breeze through life and encourage you to be the person you aspire for. It could also mean an acknowledgement of self-worth and value in relation to the need to develop and further nourish the self towards the life one yearns for.

The fact that we are thinking beings enables us to go beyond the depths of the self and realize the importance and significance of encouraging the self from within. Simply put, it promotes the development of the innate self in accordance with the external world. External world here connotes an understanding of the world beyond the self; outside the premises of the self. More so, it connotes the establishment of rapport with others.

The development of the self must emanate from within and not from external forces. It must be attuned with the goals and objectives one has set for the betterment of the self. More so, it is important to acknowledge the self in relation to its abilities to be in harmony with the psyche. Indeed, the psyche is a quintessential element of life. To be able to live the life you have always wanted, you have to satisfy and fulfill the psyche, innate, and external self.

Though it is imperative to relate the self with others, it is also important to recognize the capacity and ability of the self to be his or her own hero. Indeed, above and beyond everyone else, it should be the self that must be looked up to. Necessary growth will be allowed when confidence emanates from within. More so, with growth comes the awareness that each individual needs for complete well-being.

With the help of NLP, one is able to realize his strengths and strengthen his weaknesses to work in his favor. More so, NLP aims to reestablish the individuality of the self with respect to his relationship with others. It aids him towards the achievement of his goals in preparation for his external debut. External debut here appertains to the act of imparting a part of the self to another. This does not entirely refer to loving and being loved in return, but more so to establishing relationships.

  Thus, the realization of the self could only be appreciated if and only if you are able to recognize your very being.  
        It pertains to the awareness from within that, in return, enables the self to function as one entire being. 

To live in an imperfect world implies the recognition of absoluteness. By absoluteness it connotes a deeper sense of acceptance of the imperfectness of the world and of the self per se. To warrant the acceptance of such entails an innate understanding of the innate self. Yes, everything boils down to the self –whether we like it or not.

In this day and age, we clamor for the acknowledgement of the world and all else in it. We aspire to be somebody amidst the many nobodies that surround and influence us. We opt to belong and feel “like them” rather than exude our own individuality.

We are uniquely different and distinct from the rest. We overemphasize on the need to belong and be accepted by others that we gamble on our own enrichment. Although detrimental to the self, we still choose to act, think, and feel like the rest without giving due credence to our own capacity to intellectually and emotionally ponder on the veracity of life per se.

With the help of NLP, we are able to discover the intensity of life and give our lives an entirely different meaning. We become intellectually and emotionally attached that it permits us to live the life we have always wanted in accordance with our goals and objectives in life. Yes, NLP helps us realign our lives and follow the path to righteousness. Do not get me wrong, there is no perfect or right life, but we have our own preference for a life that is right for our nourishment and development.

That’s what makes NLP a superb self-improvement tool. It seeks to help one guide himself towards the attainment and fulfillment of his life. More so, it exemplifies that one need not worry too much regarding the feeling of belonging as it is much more important to help himself be who he really is in order to belong. Indeed, a developed self paves the way for one to establish rapport with others. In short, despite a perfectly imperfect world, NLP helps one make perfect moments in his life.

Do not be misled by the notion of NLP being a superb tool. It is just a mechanism that helps enhance the self; however, the self must do all the work. It must be ready to acknowledge the change, and at the same time embrace it in his life. With such a parameter, it would be easier for an individual to perform at par with his goals and objectives and more so, connect with others.

                                                                   Thus, decide, act, and own it. 
                       Be not afraid of change and let NLP guide you towards the life you have always wanted.

Who am I? Am I who I think I am or who others describe me to be? 

Questions, one after another, keep haunting me as I age and mature; I have been keen on answering them one by one, but to no avail. I always end up with another question that seems to be more in-depth than the previous. I say to myself to have the patience and the perseverance to overcome such confusion, but more often than not, I end up frustrated, as I cannot take the propensity of life and its many surprises.

To give up would be much easier than to hold on, but that would make me throw my life out the window without a fight. Do not judge me. I know I have my own timeline and clock to mind, but with all the predisposed notions of the world, I tend to lose hope and end up bothered all the more.  

I am me. This is me; and when I say this is me, it implies an understanding that invokes the connotation of an individual that is capable of intellectual and emotional understanding of the self, the world, and of others. In other words, I have the ability to comprehend all that is around me.

To be judged implies both an assumption and a presumption. It concludes on premises that are incomplete and incoherent. More so, it is much like basing all hypotheses on the façade alone, without having dissected the structure itself.

People from all walks of life are prone to judging others. They base their arguments on what they primarily sense and not of the wholeness of the picture. In other words, it is primarily based on the details that could either be true or false. Whatever it may be, it is still not enough because You do not know the truth.

The truth lies within. It does not exude or flaunt itself in public. What it does is it urges the psyche and the self to be in tune with each other in relation to its quest for a better life. No matter how hard it is to be “you” or to be an individual, it is but right and proper to do so than be trapped in your own cage for the rest of your life.

Though it’s hard to go against societal dictates, be carefree enough to be “you” and express yourself without hesitation. Let go of perceptions and notions of others; believe in your own capacity; and have the life you have always wanted. Like Neuro Linguistic Programming, it aims to help one comprehend the intensity of the world without having to disrupt the way life is. In other words, it aids one in the quest for a better life, one that is free from negativity. More so, Neuro Linguistic Programming seeks to empower an individual to develop and transform into the person he has always wanted to be through internal and external interpretation of the world.

Admit it; negative comments affect your life in general. You get irked by notions from others because you want them to know that what they think and know of is not the truth. However, is it necessary to explain yourself? Do you owe anybody an explanation regarding who you really are? Think about it.

Falling in love is as certain as uncertainty itself; it could never be deciphered nor fathomed, as it is indefinable. More often than not, we define and evaluate the meaning of love through the intensity of the experiences we have undergone. The moment we feel elated, we say love is about being happy with the person we are with, while on the contrary, we despise and curse it when we get hurt. No matter how we see it, we would always have a unique take on love per se. 



They say ‘care less and you’ll end up happier”; however, is it applicable in love? Would it justify our curiosity to understand love and its effects on us? More so, would we be able to understand and comprehend love when we care less about it? 

Different answers and notions warrant our inquiry on what love really is. Not to invoke a negative notion to disable the quest to realize what love really is, but one question could warrant another question rather than an answer. That is how life is -- and love too; we ask without having the certainty of an answer.


If I care less, would I really be happier? Is there an assurance to such a notion? Given the uncertainty of events, I may not have the result that I want. I would end up more confused, thus more prone to regret the beauty of loving because I would then be too caught up in my understanding of love. Simply put, I would not be able to enjoy the ride because it is already raining on my parade.

On the other hand, if I were to care more for love, I would end up expecting and being devastated at the same time. I would not know what to expect (though that is what life is all about), thus I would be vulnerable to pain and hurt. However, it is said that to not expect means to have a greater shot at the life you have always wanted. It is like discovering life all over again.

To care less or to care more are both of different extremes, and thus warrant a tremendous disparity of consequences or effects. The way it affects life is like fuel – it could take you where you want to be or have you stuck in the freeway for all you know. It could be effective and destructive at the same time.

With the help of Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP for brevity, one could take either path and still have the best life. Best life here appertains to a life that is not perfectly perfect, but close to the perfect life one aims to have. In other words, it is the life that he has planned for -- the life that he has always wanted to live. More so, it seeks to empower the psyche of the ability to perceive life in a way that would enable him to develop and nourish the self from within. This is an inevitable aspect of life, as it helps one to be the person that he has always wanted to be.

               Thus, do not worry when you become affected by the intensity lf love – it is but human to be. 
                Enhance and improve the self more than ever and be ready to take on life’s many surprises.